Mom Planning Her Wedding, Vs. Planning a Wedding in 2016
As I look at my friends Pinterest pages, it seems half of them have had their virtual weddings planned since before they were even in a relationship. Color schemes, centerpieces, bridesmaids’ dresses, dog’s outfit, engagement ring, wedding ring, fifth anniversary ring, lip color and half the things I wouldn’t have even thought of are all laid out in neat little boards online, just waiting for the day they meet Mr. Right.
Of course, I neglected to do these things in advance of actually being engaged and now am secretly wondering if maybe they were onto something because I’m overwhelmed flipping through all the websites, apps and magazines that have every suggestion I could ever possibly need. I can browse through dresses, and find a seamstress halfway across the world to make by hand a custom gown for a fraction of the price of a designer dress. It’s absolutely amazing the opportunities available to help me plan a wedding.
While my parents planned their wedding in the early 80’s, mom went to the local bridal shop to find the dress she wanted for herself and her bridesmaids. In order to find a band for the wedding, they’d have to go through the phone book, calling each one for information, and hope that someone they knew could provide a decent recommendation on at least one. If I’m looking for music, I type it into Google, get more hits than I know what to do with, and then read reviews from dozens of people and can decide on who to hire from the comfort of my couch without even having to make a phone call.
The same goes for planning venues, I could rule out venues just based off of a quick email, instead of calling a place and waiting a week or so to receive information in the mail about them. And the options are so much wider now. People are getting married at wineries, farms, grand hotels, beaches, cruise ships, and backyards. When mom was planning hers, basically everyone had their ceremony at the church followed by a reception at the local country club or the church reception hall.
Mason jars were not a thing. People drank out of wine glasses at a wedding, and looked at centerpieces that were designed by the local florist. There were no websites where people could sell their homemade centerpieces, or resell their dresses. Weddings weren’t so individualized, there was a ceremony, reception, dinner and cake followed by a rice toss and bidding adieu to the newlyweds. Now that we have so much technology, we are able to see ideas from people everywhere, and plan every detail even from a distance… or plan it while you’re lounging in bed.
With the age of the internet, we’re able to take as much or as little as we want into our own hands. I have a friend who is planning a wedding 600 miles away from her home, and was able to find her cake bakery online, email a request for samples and have eight different flavors of fresh cake on her doorstep the following morning. Within 24 hours she’d sampled the flavors and decided on her cake all without even stepping foot into the bakery. It is absolutely incredible.
Mom is having a great time helping plan my wedding with the help of technology. She sends me ideas daily on Pinterest, and I am finally creating that wedding pin board online to help me shape my vision for the day. I’m able to get feedback from the whole bridal party and my fiancé within minutes. One thing is for sure, I’d be having a heck of a time doing this without the aid of the internet.